#building a routine

[feminamoons]

I have seen people on Pinterest say that you need to work hard to achieve your goals. That if you want to have a glow up in 2025 or any year for that matter, you need to follow a list that has zero ways of being achieved by ADHD women. Or even AuDHD women for that matter. Why is that? Because most of these are made by Neurotypical women, women who don't experience Autism or ADHD. Or maybe both.

Creating routines and sticking to these routines are hard for women on the spectrum. Regardless if it's just Autism or ADHD. My advice to you? Start with something low-effort. If you have terrible hygiene and want it to change, add an alarm or note in your calendar to make sure you shower once a week. Build that up to twice a week. Keep the twice a week shower to make sure you wash your hair. Depending on your hair, you may need to wash it more often.

If you don't want to shower everyday, there are plenty of other options to make sure you feel and smell clean!

Hygienic wipes or wet wipes for the smelly areas: private area and armpits. Use them on the areas that smell the most and the fastest. I would include my feet to this as well.

Wash your hair while hanging over the bath tub or sink when it's greasy. If you're experiencing sensory issues due to the various scents in soap, use soap that have no floral or heavy scent. This also goes for shampoo.

Apply deodorant everyday! It doesn't have to be the most expensive brand. Just try out a few cans or roll-on deodorants to find the one you like most. Again, if heavily scented deodorants are a no-go for you, go with one that doesn't have a heavy scent. Or none at all. I would also avoid the ones that claim they don't leave any sweat stains or prevent you from smelling throughout the day. These kind of deodorants actually block your sweat glands and can cause blockage or for them to get irritated.

Use a clean pair of socks everyday or every other day. That keeps your socks from smelling and your feet!

If you leave the house, apply deodorant 2 hours before leaving the house. It allows the deodorant to "settle" and can prevent smells from seeping through, throughout the day. Before you leave the house, apply your favorite perfume lightly! So don't spray it on like a million times. You want the people to smell you once you left the space, not before you walk into the room. When you like make-up and it's not a sensory hell, go with a look that doesn't irritate you throughout the day.

Me, for example, I can't wear foundation because it starts tickling me throughout the day and I have the urge to wipe it off. The most I would do is mascara and a tinted lipbalm or lip stain that lasts quite some time and hydrates too! I like to keep it soft and gentle.

When it comes to glowing up, I would love to have a glow up. I would love to disappear for 6 months and reappear a whole new person. However, with my AuDHD and lack of self-discipline, I know that routines are a pain! So I have told myself to add one thing to my routine throughout the year 2025 and see how it goes by the end of it.

That way, I introduce something new every month and if it all works out, I can add more. If not, I'll stick to the things I have added to my routine and don't add anything new, until I'm ready.

[raffaellopalandri]

A Lifelong Routine for Optimal Holistic Well-Being

[yo-yo-yoshiko]

Can't any more.

[10yearsofdnp]

June 6, 2015: You know, he's got a point here. 8am is way too early to do ANY kind of work, don't these people know they're interrupting Phil's beauty sleep? 👷‍♂️🔊😭

[xxlady-lunaxx]

sanemi as the type to get so frustrated he’ll start crying

and, like, he’s arguing with genya, who’s already crying, but sanemi gets so riled up, his fists balled up enough for his nails to puncture his skin. and he’s ranting and rambling and shouting and he can’t stop, his words biting and stabbing at everything (and everyone) around them. someone tries to step in as genya cowers slightly, but then sanemi chokes on his own voice, tears pricking his eyes. he’s still stumbling through his anger, but his vision is lacking and now people really are getting worried and he hates that all they can feel is pity for poor genya and poor sanemi. he feels wobbly, suddenly, but he ducks away from everyone to skitter to a place he can be alone, his breathing heavy as he slams a door and locks it behind him. he’s scrubbing at his eyes, turning and knocking his forehead against the wall when his tears refuse to stop. and, shit, he’s trembling. hiccupy sobs scream in his throat and he presses a hand to his mouth, closing in on himself and curling into a ball on the floor. shit.

[deathandnonexistentialdread]

the core strength required for this is insane

[bambiraptorx]

[I.D. Digital three panel comic using Baxter Stockman from TMNT 2003 and Flora Chau from Jentry Chau vs the Underworld. The first panel shows them from behind, staring at a building currently in flames. The light from the flames reflects onto Stockman as he stands slouched forward slightly, while Flora, as a ghost, hovers in midair. Unlike Stockman, the light does not reflect on her. The second panel shows them both from the front, eyes wide in matching stressed and shocked expressions. In the last panel they make eye contact, Stockman raising his arms in a helpless shrug and Flora putting her palms together to gesture forward. Stockman says "Minor setback?" and Flora answers "Minor setback." End I.D.]

The fact that they both refer to events where a building is destroyed and people almost die as 'minor setbacks' is so funny to me lol

Also full disclosure I drew ghost Flora because she's short as heck and it worked better for putting these characters in the same frame to have her hovering, but the implications of Stockman just being able to see ghosts for some reason are also very entertaining to me

[starry-bi-sky]

pouring one out for luo binghe in my disciple SQQ fic, poor guy has taken a backseat here. we're nearly 30k words deep and he hasn't even shown his face once. it'll be much longer before he even actually talks to Shen Qingqiu.

(i say im pouring one out but in reality im sitting in my director's chair chewing on a cigar and wearing a beret as he tearily and unsuccessfully pleads with me for more scenes with Shen Qingqiu)

[lovesodeepandwideandwell]

I have partly cracked the code with yesterday's baby: he is Also an introvert and Also doesn't want eyes and attention on him for 5 hours straight

[cookidoughlilac]

One of my favourite things to do with characters and ocs is to give them music interests (that may or may not be similar to my own)

You mean to tell me that The Mechanic is a fellow rock enthusiast? That Alan would blast the Cavern Quest OST over 3's speakers? How about Grandma Tracy, who insists that the "old days" had the best music as she puts on Busted, JLS, and other tracks from the 2000/2010s before dancing the Macarena

[3416]

1634 + shared dreams

Credits: Marina Tsvetaeva | Mark Blinch | Behind the Maple Leafs’ franchise-changing draft selection of Mitch Marner | Matthews: It's a dream come true | Rebecca Lindenberg, “Love, An Index” | NHL: Auston Matthews was born for this | Marner on wanting to continue playing for the Maple Leafs | H.G. Wells, The Time Machine over Lee Balterman, Steve Russell | The Hockey News over Steve Russell | Franz Kafka, Letters to Milena over Kevin Sousa (1) (2) | Leaf's (former) goal song: You Make My Dreams by Hall & Oates | TSN Unique Opportunity graphic | Jeff O'Neill on TSN The Quiz Panel | Two young Leafs join a pair of all-time Leaf greats | Hall & Oates again | Matthews thrilled to be committed to Maple Leafs | Kevin Sousa | Mitch Marner has another gear in him. | Frank Bidart, “To the Dead” on Mark Blinch (1) (2) (3) | Haruki Murakami, Sputnik Sweetheart | Mark Blinch

[skepsys]

challenging myself to do *something* creative every day even if its something small, so heres a bit of a wip of barrock i started today :-)

[techychillin]

He’s living his best life

[thatweirdtranny]

why is finding the right skincare routine so impossible

[impossible-rat-babies]

they are my funny barbie doll

[ddagent]

Me, Yesterday: I should write a '5 times Margo and Sergei went to bed together (g-rated)' story. Nah. No one wants to read just domestic fluff.

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